Understanding your worth!
Please understand that your time is valuable and you can’t just go around giving it to just anyone. We as women have to slow down long enough to even see if the person that wants our time is truly worthy of it. This cannot be determined by a couple of dates. I mean it takes 90 days for a habit to be formed. So why don’t we take at least 90 days before we begin to take our new love interest serious? If he is serious he will put in the necessary work and then so should you. But, until then keep seeing other people so that you don’t get so caught up on one particular guy.
Especially if you haven’t determined if this potential suitor is worthy of your time yet. This cannot be determined by how many compliments that he gives you, either. Because many men are good at rattling off how beautiful every woman is — and rightfully so, because we all are, but why should it move us one way or another? Some of them assume that maybe we have never heard it from our own fathers, so they will use this towards their advantage.
Another thing that cannot be used to determine if he is worthy of your time is by how much you are attracted to him. Because attraction will only go as far as the surface of the person. The superficial stuff won’t sustain a relationship. It won’t tell you if they are kind, loving, supportive or loyal. Remember, people are good at showing you their representative – the best version of themselves. So, it means we need to dig deeper into the soul of the person.
I will go as far as saying that every person that you meet will have a motive. You just have to make sure that their motives will be beneficial to you as well. And ladies, it is not hard to tell what a man really wants by his conversation. Whatever he talks about the most will allow you to figure out what he really wants from you. So, allow him to talk, make eye contact and pay attention to his body language. The more you listen, the more you will learn about him. And guess what, if all he can ever talk about is being sexual with you then you have your answer. I tell you what, take away what he really wants the most from you and see if he stays around.
I am putting young women up on game because too many of our young women are falling in love/lust too soon. And the byproduct of our lust is our innocent children – and also making us baby mommas and not wives. I was speaking to a young woman just yesterday and she was in tears because her child’s father had moved on to another girl — before she had even given birth to their child. Thus creating another single mother. This has to stop because we are creating more and more economically challenged homes, which hurts our children. They deserve whole, healthy families so they can have a fighting chance to compete in and with the rest of the world.
I could go on forever, but I won’t because I believe in each and every one of you! So, I will leave you with this, your worth goes far beyond your physical aesthetics (face, hair and body) and once you realize this you will be such an amazing woman that your energy alone will attract the right man to you.
Marion Theresa Wallace