Changing Your Perspective will Change Your Life
It’s not what you think! Changing Your Perspective will Change Your Life
Growing up in a dysfunctional family may have caused your perspective on life to be tainted. Your views of the world, people and circumstances aren’t going to be as clear as a person that grew up in a healthy family household. Don’t feel bad or guilty about this, because it is not your fault. But it is your responsibility to change whatever it is that may be holding you back.
Please understand that everything that happens to us as children before we grow up impacts our perspective on life — how we view the world — whether it was good or bad.
If it was bad, then I am sorry to tell you that you may have to relearn many of your core values. Such as being able to bond with others, being able to give and receive love correctly, being able to trust and being able to use spiritual discernment.
For instance, if a young woman has never had an active father figure in her life, then she will not know what role a man needs to play in her life. She may want to take the lead because she watched her mom do it for all her life and it is all that she knows. She may not understand what it means to allow a man to lead. The man has to be the head in order for both participants to live out their GOD given design.
Another example would be if a young woman had an abusive father then she may believe, through learned behavior, that abuse is normal and so she then picks a man just like her father. I am a witness that subconsciously, one can believe that abuse and mistreatment is all one deserves – and why some women pick bad boys.
And if someone has had a mother who was strung out on crack cocaine, then drug abuse for him or her may be commonplace. Self-medicating is how most hurt people cope, in order to make it to the next day.
All of the things that I mentioned here are all learned behaviors and many of them are so very hard to correct.
In order to empower our lives, our thoughts have to line up with what we really want in life. We must become acquainted with our purpose. We have to understand who we are and whose we are—and if we don’t want a repeat of our past, then we must train our thoughts. Philippians 4:8 tells us, “Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy meditate on these things.”
So it’s not what we think! No, not what we think if our perspective/ thinking hasn’t changed. No, not until we change our minds so that we can change our lives.