As I scrolled down my timeline on today I saw a question being asked and that question was, “what is your definition of love?”
I initially responded, Love is a choice to be there through good and bad times. It is not just a feeling it is a choice. Feelings may fade but true love is everlasting.
He responded, Interesting! Marion, are you telling me that when you are in love you don’t feel it?
I then responded, I feel love within me and all around me so yes I feel when I am in love with someone. But what if my love interest does something that is unbecoming of himself towards me? If he does, then I still have to be willing to be there – actively involved in the relationship even though I may not like him at the moment. I can’t give up on our commitment because I am not feeling him presently.
See most people think that because their feelings change then they are no longer in love. This is not always true. It just means that our human psyche is allowed to go through many different feelings and emotions in one day but it shouldn’t shake us one way or another.
Example, if someone upsets me to a point of anger and I feel like hitting them. Yet, I don’t because I realize that particular feeling will pass although my action won’t. Love is action and it is ever growing and ever consuming. If we wait out the hard times, that “feeling” of love will return even stronger than ever!
Marion T. Wallace